Domestic Abuse Services

What is domestic abuse?

The term domestic abuse means any abuse between current or former partners in an intimate relationship, wherever and whenever it occurs. The abuse may involve physical, sexual, emotional or financial abuse.

Domestic abuse covers a range of situations and victims of domestic abuse do not always have visible bruises. Many abusers engage in verbal threats or emotional abuse which can be equally harmful. Violence and abuse can be actual or threatened and may include:

  • Physical, sexual or psychological abuse e.g. slapping, pushing, kicking, punching, stabbing, rape, verbal abuse, stalking, intimidation.
  • Financial or emotional deprivation e.g. with holding money, not allowing friends to visit or phone, stopping a partner from getting or keeping a job.
  • The use or threat of using legal sanctions against a partner e.g. threats about the custody of children.
  • Denial of rights e.g.denial of medical care, physical freedom.

Domestic abuse can affect both men and women

Where to go for help in Tonbridge Malling

Tonbridge & Malling Community Safety Partnership are providing funding for DAVSS (see below) to provide support for all victims of domestic abuse within the borough.

DAVSS (Domestic Abuse Volunteer Support Services)

DAVSS are a local charity who use highly trained advisors to offer advice, information and support to enable you to make informed decisions that will provide safety for you and your family. This will include assessing risk, safety planning, offering legal and housing options and supporting you through any court proceedings.

You can contact them on the number below for advice and help.

01892 570538 10am to 1pm Monday to Friday including bank holidays. Out of hours message service available

Always dial 999 in an emergency

Male Victims of Domestic Abuse

Domestic abuse affects men too and we want to give all victims (including male victims) the chance to talk about it and access support. Men can contact DAVSS to access support and help through their helpline and they welcome calls from all men - in hetrosexual or same sex relationships.

Specially trained volunteers will visit individuals at a convenient location or provide a telephone support service. The number is 01892 570538 and is manned Monday - Friday 10am - 1pm and answer phone service thereafter. Or e-mail for more information on to refer. Referrals can be made by yourself, other family members or by agencies


The Kent and Medway Domestic Abuse Web site

The Kent and Medway Domestic Abuse website gives information about the domestic abuse services available within Kent or Medway and you can look for services within the area where you live.

The website can be accessed at


The Citizens Advice Service

The Citizens Advice Service offer free confidential help, support and advice. Contact Nr 01622 663990 


The Community Domestic Abuse Perpetrators Programme

Is a free rolling programme of 27 evening sessions and is designed to help men who feel that their behaviour towards their partners has been, or still is, abusive, to challenge their behaviour and to see how it is affecting their partner/ex partner and children who may be involved.

Men who live in Tonbridge and Malling, Tunbridge Wells or Sevenoaks can be referred to the programme. However, they must accept that their behaviour is a problem, accept responsibility for ending their abusive behaviour towards their partner/ex partner and be prepared to agree to the conditions of attendance.

For further information contact the programme manager on 07933 359210

National helplines

There are a number of national helpline and websites available and some of these are listed below:

Women's Aid
A national charity working to end domestic abuse against women and children. They have a free telephone helpline 0808 2000 247

Offers emergency accomodation and support for women and children experiencing domestic abuse. Their helpline number is 0808 2000 247

Men's Advice line

Offers a confidental helpline for male victims of domestic aubse. The helpline number is 0808 801 0327or you can email them on

Elder Abuse work to protect and prevent the abuse of older people. Anyone concerned in anyway about the abuse of older people can call their helpline number on 0808 808 8141

The ISVA service Self referrals to the Sexual Assault Referral Centre (SARC) located at Beech House, Maidstone. The SARC offers a place of safety where victims can receive sexual health screening and be referred for counselling. Victims do not have to report what has happened to them to the Police if they do not wish to.

Beech House can be contacted on 0800 133 7432 - they are open 24 hours a day

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